Have you ever watched FAIL videos on YouTube?
I feel a little bad about it but I get a good laugh watching videos of other people completely messing up.
I end up feeling relieved thinking, “Thank goodness! I’m not the only one!”
It helps me remember that nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes.
However, when it comes to parenting, we seem to forget the concept that, “nobody is perfect.” The stakes are high; kids futures seem to be hanging in the balance. As a result parents are overwhelmed with stress and anxiety.
“What if I mess up as a parent?”
“What if my child does not follow Jesus?”
So becoming a “perfect parent” becomes many peoples all-consuming pursuit.
We often idealize a state that at some point we will “arrive” and become perfect.
But the Bible says, “no one is perfect, no not one.” The truth is that no matter how hard we try to become perfect people, no matter how many parenting books you read, we will be flawed and broken in need of a savior.
The truth is there are no perfected formulas to produce some idealized, God-honoring child that has a successful career and regularly visits you in the retirement home with your 2.5 grandkids.
That is the burdensome reality.
But you don’t have to carry the burden, the stress or the anxiety.
The best thing you can do as a parent and/or as a spouse is to prioritize your relationship with the Father.
He will take your burden. He will renew you. He will give you peace.
You have permission to feel like you are failing as a parent, if that is what it takes to begin growing in your relationship with the Lord.
Say to your child, “I can’t help you right now, for the next 5 minutes Mommy is going to spend time praying.”
The burden of life will become overwhelming the moment we forget that we are a child of God first.
You don’t have to be a perfect parent, consider this permission to feel like you are failing so you can be winning in what matters most.
-Pastor Brandon Maddux