Just a week ago marked the end of an era for me as Marty and I married off our youngest daughter to the love of her life. 

To say there was a mixture of emotions as we joined with our family and friends to celebrate this joyous occasion is an understatement.

I have spent the past 28 years being a mom.  This has been my primary focus and goal.  Making meals, scheduling dental and doctor appointments, haircuts and homeschooling, vacations and vaccinations - from bedtime stories and birthday parties to ballet and voice lessons, as well as too many football and volleyball games to count, ALL have kept my life full and my purpose secure.  

I have genuinely loved being a mom.  While it has been exhausting and painful at times, there has been nothing that comes close to the fulfillment I have felt in this role.  A good friend of mine says “Nothing in this life compares to the color that motherhood brings.”

I’m not being dramatic.  I know I’m still their mom, but it radically shifts once they move out… and shifts drastically again when they get married. 

It is a new season for me, and the unfamiliar tapestry being woven leaves me feeling vulnerable.  I end each day with the thought, “I know I’m going to be okay, but I don’t know what ‘okay’ looks like yet.”

I am choosing to trust God has good things in store for my life, because He said so in His Word.  “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them.”  Romans 8:28

This verse brings me great comfort during this time of transition.  It helps me remember my 28 years of mothering will serve an additional purpose (outside of the amazing kids I’ve somehow managed to raise).  God’s going to work it ALL together for good into the very fabric of my life.  I know my mothering hasn’t ended; it’s just going to look a lot different in the days ahead. The thread color of my experience may be changing, but I take comfort knowing it will fulfill His purpose for my life… and theirs.

-Pastor Debbie

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