We all have a paradigm, a personal road map for life that determines how we judge everything that comes our way. What we know and experience influences what we see. In short, we all have a lens.

Miles’ Law says it this way, “Where we stand depends on where we sit.” It should come as no surprise then that different topics can be triggers for us depending on where we “sit”.

Take our current church sermon series on marriage, for instance…

The subject of MARRIAGE can be a trigger in our lens. If we have had great experiences with marriage, the subject may invite the warm fuzzies. On the other hand, if we have no experience with marriage or have had a bad experience with marriage, our lens can stimulate a very different response-maybe make our stomach turn a little… or make us want to punch something.

Someone mentioned to me on Sunday that they were not looking forward to the series on marriage at our church because as a single young adult they did not feel the series would be applicable to them.  What they know about marriage (more specifically the fact that they are not married) influenced their perception of the series. 

I get it. After all, I remember being single in my early twenties.  I wanted to be married but at the same time I had lots of life to live and wanted to be living it without the encumbrances of a spouse.

The last thing I would have wanted to listen to is a sermon all about marriage. I would have gone though. I would have sat in the middle of all the married couples with their arms around each other so I could witness the greatest display of public affection known to man…Yuck! I would have rolled my eyes a bit, but I would be listening.

Heck, I would be there taking notes and keeping my eyes open for any single guys in the room! (Can I get an Amen!)

If you have been through a recent breakup or divorce and you’ve seen the worst in someone you once loved, you need to hear this…You are dearly loved and who you are to God is more important than any relationship. There is hope for you as you move forward. Keep your heart open to God’s love and grace.

What we know is what we see.  And this, my friends, makes us more alike than we sometimes realize. So, here’s my advise for anyone still on the fence about this whole marriage series thing:

This series on marriage, is about SO MUCH MORE than just marriage! This series is about Good News for married people, single people, divorced people, widows, engaged people, just plain ol’ PEOPLE! Let’s allow our paradigms to get an update. We all need this message!

If you are married, this month is about more than just your marriage. Hear the other messages within this message and keep your heart open to other things God wants to show you.

If you are single, and wondering if marriage is really worth it, there is good news about marriage in this series… Keep your heart open for the truth to have its way in you these next few weeks. You just may find that your mind has changed.

If you have been through a recent breakup or divorce and you’ve seen the worst in someone you once loved, you need to hear this…You are dearly loved and who you are to God is more important than any relationship. There is hope for you as you move forward. Keep your heart open to God’s love and grace.

Maybe you have decided to give up on marriage because you keep getting passed over. You need to hear this series… because there is hope for you in the waiting. You are not alone! There are a lot of other people just like you. Keep taking notes and becoming the person God wants you to be.

Looking forward to the paradigm shifts God will bring in these coming weeks!

- Pastor Rachel



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